“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and
~ Mary Oliver
Last night after work following an unusually warm October day, my daughter and husband and I went down to the beach. We chased each other on the sand, watched the sunset, sat close on a blanket munching crackers, and my husband went for a swim.
And in the manner that typically plays out between mother and grown daughter I thought, wow is she off the mark. But it sat there and it marinated and I came to have a little deeper insight on it. I realize now that there are two different kinds of perfectionism. I had not recognized that the tune I was dancing to was one of them.
I woke up today, as I do quite often, determined to “do the work”. For me, that means writing. But whether or not you like to write, it is a truth that we are simultaneously pulled to art – our creations as well as the art that is the way we live and design our lives – and to destruction.
It’s easy to overlook the effect our routines have on us. Once they get established we don’t usually give them much thought unless they are interrupted. But a bad routine can be having far more impact on your life than you imagine, even when it is not a drastically unhealthy one like say…
When we are children we are told to study because it will help us get into college, in college we are working hard to get the good job when we graduate, when we have the job we are working for the next rung on the ladder, when we get to that higher rung we are waiting to retire. When does that end though? What about right now?
What do I mean by “little dings”? I mean those seemingly small decisions you make in the course of a day or evening that go against what you know to be the right thing to do. The more you know that what you are doing is not the right thing to do, the bigger the ding.